I've been remiss in writing. Lux has dug up the scrap book with emails and photos that Nanny gave to her or I (I can't remember) and made me realize that I haven't kept the same memories of Huxley and need to do a better job - at reflections of both of them. I find myself not remembering the details of Lux but her brother certainly reminds me of her, his easy disposition, his "need" for a visit, a smile, a giggle from one of us, his experimentation of sounds, grunts, purrs etc. I guess all babies are the same. And you can constantly watch him trying desperately to fit the pieces together, how to get a toy into his hand, into his mouth, how to get the water to come out of the sippy cup etc etc.
But its the simpleness of a baby that enchants me, their need to be picked up, smiled at, talked to, cuddled, tickled and part of a family, their watchful eyes waiting and hoping for one of the above to happen and when it doesn't he finds his fingers and has a good suck. It was certainly Lux (minus the finger sucking) and is now certainly Huxley but he has the wonderful advantage of watching and waiting for her smiles, hugs, gentle voice and touch and she is all those things to him.
She grows up more and more each day and astounds us with her perception and sensitivities to her surroudings. The other day I asked her "how is Corinne (her pregnant nanny) feeling" and she said "I don't know you would have to ask Corinne" and Geoffrey and I giggled. But she is struggling in some respects to find her way and navigate the complicated "girlfriend" web and it concerns Geoff and I so we do what we can to re-enforce her confidence and remind her that life is really about making others feel good about themselves and just to be a fun and kind friend to kids and include them all in her activities and adventures at school and beyond. Living in our neighborhood will have those challenges of the "alpha" female and we need to do all that we can to mitigate that for her (and us in turn) and remove those obstacles from her life. I am grateful that we have a son - although he's far too young to be a confidant of hers they will grow up together and I hope be life long friends and balance one anothers perspective.
Anyone have any strategies or suggestions for us?
And we continue to adjust to a new home, mommy working etc, everyday is a challenge and an adventure and we do what we can to enjoy each day with our young children and one another.
thats it, a bit of a touchy sermon - sorry about that. back to work!
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